What If You Ask For Exactly What You Want ?
The art of asking for what You want - Amanda Palmer
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The idea of having a job is so deeply woven into modern culture's Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware that to talk about what is really going on may seem blasphemous.
Yet here you are... a blasphemer! A heretic! Asking about your profession, your calling. Now how you are supposed to make enough money to live?
The assumption that you need money to survive can give you cold chills of gut-wrenching fear and self-loathing even before you get out of bed in the morning.
So why are you doing it? (holding that assumption...)
'Going to work' means being a slave and a pawn in somebody else's gameworld, trading the hours of your life for pieces of paper or zero(s) in your bank account.
You never get these hours back.
The fact that you are willing to trade hours of your Life, moving forward the psychopathic corporate agenda for pieces of paper might seem absurd for a person like you. But you are still doing it. Why?
The most common justification is that you need money to live.
However, the reason is not the cause.
You have bought into the lie that money (pieces of papers and coins) can buy safety. The more money you have, the safer you are supposed to feel.
Have you ever found that to be true? How much hours of Life are you willing to give away to find out? How much money is enough money? The answer is never!
Why not? Because behind they belief money can buy safety is the hidden holy-grail hope that if only you have enough money, you might finally stop feeling Fear.
"Advertising is based on one thing: happiness. You know what happiness is? Happiness is smell of a new car. It's freedom from fear. It's a billboard on the side of the road that screams with reassurance that whatever you're doing, its okay. You are okay."
The gross assumption being that feeling safe comes from no longer feeling afraid. The even grosser assumption is that you stop feeling afraid all together.
What else have you tried to stop feeling afraid? Drinking? Smoking? Porn? Sexting multiple partners at the same in the middle of the night? Overeating? Undereating? Overworking? Streesing out? Has it ever worked? Probably not...
I am letting in on a secret: no amount of money will ever, ever make your Fear go away.
You think that if you have enough money, then you do not have to feel the Fear of - because you think you do not have to - Be With others, Negotiate Intimacy, Ask for what you want, Invent new Game space, Cavitate Parallel Culture space for Archiarchy to thrive, Take a Stand for Your Quest, Build a Team, have Integrity by doing the things you said you would do, getting off your Positionality so you can Radically Relate to other Beings in Extraordinary and Archetypal space, go on Adventure and bring others on Adventures with you, Hold and Navigate space for Discovery and High Level Fun, and so on...
You think money can buy you out of the Fear of Living. That's right, you are not afraid of dying, you are afraid of Living with a capital L. You have resolved yourself to Surviving by sacrificing your Being on the altar of safety.
At the same time, being a pawn in someone else's gameworld is very tasty food for your Gremlin. Your Gremlin can blame, complain, betray, take revenge, etc... but this way of life is very expansive for your Being who gets put away further and further down in the depth of some abyss where its scream might stop reaching you if you ignore it long enough.
Your choice is simple.
For most of us, this choice opens when we are 18 years old.
If you are homeschooled, or unschooled, the choice comes much earlier.
Shall you be a slave of your Gremlin enforced survival strategy (your Box)?
Shall you be a servant of your Bright Principles and Archetypal Lineage?
No one can make this choice for you.
No one can stop you from making this choice.
If you do not make the choice for being a servant consciously and publicly, then you have already made the choice for being a slave unconsciously and secretly.
The older you get, the more difficult this choice becomes to change, because your Box, with its habitual Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware (S.H.I.T.) grows more and more crystallized.
Probably you know someone whose Box is already so crystallized that they keep repeating the same stories each time you visit with them?
You do not have to let this become your future !
Many of us are engaged in building-out and trying to inhabit experimental regenerative-culture gameworlds, centered on nurturing complex healthy ecosystems on Earth, centered on the evolution of human consciousness, centered on healing each other, centered on Radical Responsibility and love.
One of the many keys for practical success in next-culture gameworld-building is to re-evaluate what is being valued.
Basing a socio-economic system around valuing material stuff - meaning, to value how much of certain kinds of stuff you have (even numbers in a computer is stuff) - is doomed to duplicate exactly what modern culture already produces.
Material stuff is limited, because material space is limited. This automatically results in competition, scarcity, winners and losers, strife.
But think about this: In energetic domains, space is not limited.
In nonmaterial worlds, there is unlimited space for building out new gameworld spaces centered around creating and exchanging nonmaterial values.
Nonmaterial values are often more valuable than any material currency can pay for. (Think about trying to pay for someone who can comfort the dying, for someone who can transform conflicts into new possibilities for everyone's satisfaction, for someone who can facilitate the healing of deep emotional wounds, etc. Trying to give money to pay for a new life is laughably inadequate.)
What do we mean by ‘nonmaterial values’?
(Please keep in mind that asking 'What are nonmaterial values?' is risky business, because the reader may be committed to a value system that only values material stuff ('diamonds are forever') and may reject nonmaterial value as worthless. Still, let us take that risk. Let’s give it a try.)
An economy centered on exchanging nonmaterial value would include innumerable currencies.
Unlike Forex, with its 195 currencies from 195 national banking systems all interchangeable through standardized exchange rates, Valex is a global network of archearchy gameworlds (such as ecovillages and nanonations) for exchanging nonmaterial valuables.
What gets exchanged at Valex is true value, without the interference of a currency. Understanding Valex starts with gaining new clarity about Value.
Here is a tiny fraction of a beginning list of nonmaterial value that emerges from deep within the center of your Being.
Which one is you?
Delivering authentic adulthood initiatory processes.
Guiding the decontamination of the adult ego state.
Transforming unhealed traumatic experiences.
Facilitating gameworld culture shift.
Opening up the way for a person to lower their Numbness Bar.
Making it possible for someone to become aware of what you are aware of and entering the waking state.
Negotiating intimacy in 5 bodies.
Upgrading Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware.
Putting the poop on the table.
Coaching Radical Relating.
Providing Emotional Healing Processes (EHP).
Clarifying and deepening context in any gameworld.
Accessing nothingness and not-knowing as resources.
Holding and Navigating nonlinear and unreasonable spaces.
Accompanying the dying.
Distilling transformational distinctions.
Performing memetic surgeries.
Pulling the rug out from under assumptions, expectations, resentments.
Relocating the Point Of Origin.
Dismantling irrelevant gameworlds.
Igniting the powers of declaring, choosing, and asking.
Shifting ordinary space into extraordinary or archetypal space.
Using segway phrases to start interesting conversations with strangers.
Jacking-In to Bright Principles and Archetypal Lineage as external resources.
Stellating conscious anger, fear, sadness, and joy into Archetypal internal resources.
Building Matrix for enduring the intensity of archetypal love.
Becoming centered, grounded, and bubbled enough to play full out.
Building out and inhabiting new next-culture gameworld spaces.
...and so on.
Your Outrageous Rage...
Your Job is what you want to exist.
How do you know what you want to exist?
You feel angry that it does not yet exist!
Perhaps you have had the sensation of being so frustrated because something was not a certain way. You got so angry that you went ahead and made it happen. Can you recall the clarity and power that flowed through you? Do you remember how the Universe conformed to your reality-shaping offers? You probably did not know how to make it happen. And it was irrelevant. You probably did not have permission to do it. And you did not ask for it. You did whatever it took to bring what you wanted to exist into existence. What if your unreasonable and outrageous Rage that says “I want this to exist” is your real job? What if riding that rageful Dragon was what you came here to do?
If this were so, it would free you from having to manipulate yourself with circumstances to do your job. School programs you to manipulate yourself to do what you already want to do: learning. You learn so that you can give the correct answer to the teacher and be rewarded. You learn so that you can have good grades and be admired by your parents. You learn so that you can get into the best college or university and fulfill the promise of having a ‘good job’ upon exit from modern education. Even if you decided to be a ‘bad student’, have low grades, and receive negative attention from your teachers and parents, your behavior to not conform to external pressures was as much shaped by those external pressures as if you decided to abide by them. From an early age, you have been trained to seek circumstances that create the appropriate pressure for you to deliver your work.
It could be that still today, you install fake external pressure circumstances to manipulate yourself to create what you already want to come into existence. For example, you might impose deadlines on yourself, or pay people to check-in on you, have a boss that tells you what to do, or enroll in classes to give you assignments as a form of self-manipulation. Did you ever notice yourself resenting these external pressures even though you arranged them yourself?
Or maybe you develop elaborate and noble reasons why you are doing your job — some of them you might never want to reveal publicly. Maybe you deliver your services to the world ‘because’ it might makes you rich and famous, or ‘because’ it might give you enough money to survive, or ‘because’ people might love you more, or ‘because’ other people need what you are offering, and even maybe ‘because’ you think it might save the world…
When you do things ‘because’ of a reason, you place expectations on the results. You might expect that the world becomes a better place, or that people change or that you become successful (whatever that means.) What if your expectations are not fulfilled? Then you become resentful against the world for not conforming to your expectations. Delivering your service then feeds your underworld addictions as a massive source of Gremlin food.
Is it possible that you are still using the school-instilled strategy of inflicting external pressures upon yourself to do what you already want to do because you do not know that you have access to your internal resource of unreasonable Rage at any time for no reason?
What if you dropped off the ‘because’ and the ‘in order to’ that are only acting as acceptable bypasses from your authentic Rage? What if you freed yourself from reasonableness and became an outrageous force of Rage in the world? It is a sort of madness to deliver your singular work according to a Rage that says, “I want this to exist” when the only reward that you would ever get is that this comes into existence. The result of your unshakeable clarity stands alone without any reasons or expectations attached. If someone asks you “Why are you doing this?” you would have no other explanation but that you wanted it to exist. They might push back and say, “But, why?”. The authentic answer would be: “No reason.”
If you have had this experience before, you know that such unreasonable Rage burns right through your emotional fears of not being good enough, or fears of making a mistake because you don’t know how it goes. Such Rage ignores your Gremlin strategies to play victim and get revenge. Such flaming Clarity is unhindered by the opinions and fears of other people. Their claim of ‘impossibility’ becomes irrelevant.
When unleashing such resources, your efforts and energy are moved to create the particular results that would bring your Rage to its satisfaction. It can be intense. Your inner experience might be something like: “Things are like this, and I want them to be like that, but they aren’t like that, and it drives me mad enough to jump out of bed in the morning and do whatever it takes to make it how I want it to be!”
When the thing comes into its own existence, it stands away from you and you are fulfilled, until the next layer of Outrage comes, which might only be a few moments later! It could be about writing The Book, or writing your next Article, delivering a WorkTalk, or a Workshop, making your next video, creating a Team of Edgeworkers or Intimacy Journeyers or Trainers, building a Gaian Gameworld such as a Bridge-House, or creating a codex for inhabiting a Nanonation, etc… Whatever it is you create, the engine behind your gestures is your outrageous Rage.
For example, right now, I am using my outrageous Rage: that I want this article to exist in the world, to fuel my fingers bashing the keys. Only after this article is written, edited, proofread, published on Medium, posted on my website, Facebook and sent in my newsletter, will my Rage be satisfied. This Rage enlivens my commitment to write this article, as well as my integrity to my Archetypal Lineage which is providing this precious clarity.
As a result, my collaborations with others create and harvest new possibilities to bring my article into existence. Taking a shower or washing the breakfast dishes supports my physical body to bring this article into existence. I go through my next Emotional Healing Process or Adulthood Initiation as the path of bringing this article into existence!
It was a Friday afternoon in 1995. I was going down the elevator in the Charles Schwab headquarters building (a major financial firm), after a day of work as a computer programmer, contracted through a small consulting agency. I was living with my beloved late sister Inbal in an apartment in Oakland, and this gig was part of my overall effort to work as little as possible and keep my consumption as low as possible. I was able to work 2-3 days a week while going to graduate school to study sociology.
It was painful for me to sell myself, which I knew I was doing. In that pain and alienation, there was also satisfaction [for my Gremlin...] in imagining that no one in the office would know that I wanted to dismantle their business even while working within it...
COVID-19 has changed the way we work forever, we've seen a shift from rigid systems of office culture to a flexible, supportive culture where mental well-being is at the forefront of businesses and people's minds. 2021 saw the rise of 'the great resignation', a movement where millions of people left their soulless jobs in search of deeper meaning, connection and purpose in their lives. This was a powerful example of how attitudes are shifting as we enter into a new era.
Course creators Della Duncan and Silvia DiBlasio have captured this shift and tailor-made a course that will allow you to delve deep and view your work and livelihoods from a new perspective, opening us to dream and explore new possibilities! This is our chance to continue the shift towards a more harmonious, equitable, just and sustainable future.
Learn how to:
Next Culture Doorways:
Delivering what you ARE is your Archiarchal Service.
"Here is how you can build yourself a next-culture future now."
What is your Archearchy profession?
Are you ready to let it come out and shine?
What are you waiting for?
(Honestly answering this non-rhetorical question could lead you to a transformational Emotional Healing Process.)
(What if it works?)
R. Buckminster Fuller:
We should do away with the absolutely specious notion that everybody has to earn a living. It is a fact today that one in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest. The youth of today are absolutely right in recognizing this nonsense of earning a living. We keep inventing jobs because of this false idea that everybody has to be employed at some kind of drudgery because, according to Malthusian Darwinian theory he must justify his right to exist. So we have inspectors of inspectors and people making instruments for inspectors to inspect inspectors. The true business of people should be to go back to school and think about whatever it was they were thinking about before somebody came along and told them they had to earn a living.
Experiments To Try...
Reading Experiments builds you different Matrix than doing Experiments.
You need both kinds of Matrix. One without the other is insufficient.
Thinking about doing Experiment does not change your Energetic Body, and you do not receive the Matrix into your Being.
Thinking instead of doing can be hesitation due to fear. Sometimes the hesitation is intelligent, sometimes not.
Removing unnecessary Energetic Blocks causing your hesitation can suddenly cause a vast increase in your intelligence.
We call this: High Level Fun.
Become A Conscious Zookeeper
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Gaia Is Ready To Hire You... NOW!
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GAIA IS HIRING is a worldwide movement for living awareness in collaboration with the planet. It’s about creating a new culture based on the common good, liveliness and sustainability, rather than exploitation, profit maximization and infinite growth. A culture in which we human beings see ourselves as part of planet Earth, rather than rulers and owners.
This Experiment is to participate in a GAIA IS HIRING, 2-day or 3-day event. If nothing is listed on their calendar, please write to Patrizia Patz and request that she get an event together for everyone (calendar: https://gaiasuchtmitarbeiter.de/en/kalender ). If Patrizia's job is not to put together a Gaia is Hiring event, then guess whose job it is? Yours! Yes!
It can be
Watch: 'No Small Jobs' TOGETHER !
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Get together with Your Team (Men's Circle, Possibility Team, Rage Club, Riftwalker's Club, etc.) watch five (5) of the interviews at No Small Jobs Podcast.
In your Beep! Book, write down questions and answers that arise in you.
Afterwards, talk in groups of 3 then in the whole Team about the decisions you are facing right now.
This Experiment is to support each other to actually do the next Big Experiment.
When you're looking to change your career, listen to No Small Jobs and find out how everyone else found their passion.
During the next weeks, talk specifically with five different people from different walks of life and find out whether their path to career happiness was straight or windy; through university or through life experience; fraught or simple. Notice how this helps you discover new careers, or feel reassured that you are involved in the right one.
Distill Your Destiny
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Perhaps you have a Memetic Construct deep inside your Being that says. "I must go to work to have money to live."
'Earning money to live' is not your Destiny; it is your Survival Strategy.
It might change your life to learn to tell the difference between your Destiny and your Survival Strategy.
You might not know this, but your Destiny is optional. You can choose or not choose your destiny. Look around you... It is pretty obvious that most people these days choose to not live their Destiny, and stay in survival instead.
Your Destiny is your Bright Principles. Each human being serves a set of 3 to 6 Bright Principles.
Bright Principles are facets of raw consciousness that want to be expressed in the physical world.
Raw consciousness cannot act without your mouth, hands, voice and body. It needs you.
You have a particular set of Bright Principles that wants to manifest in the world. That is your Destiny. That could also be your job, if you Choose to accept it. You might have to change your Memetic Construct or your Thoughtware in the process.
You can distill your Destiny in the privacy of your own home following.
This Experiment is to use your Team (Women's Circle, Possibility Team, Research Team, Men's Circle) to Hold Space for you (or perhaps you ALL) to Distill Your Destiny.
Bring Your Coolness Factor Into Your Job
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Take A Step That Prepares You To Jack-In To Your Archetypal Lineage
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Your Are Already Ready For More Than You Think
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S.P.A.R.K. stands for 'Specific Practical Applications of Radical Knowledge'.
Doing S.P.A.R.K. Experiments Builds Matrix in your Being to responsibly and ecstatically deliver your value.
At the same time, you have already build enough Matrix to be in a Team and to be reading this Experiment, and what this Experiment is telling you that you are already ready for more than your Self-Image allows. Your Team can explain this to you.
This Experiment is to read SPARK179 'You are already ready for more than you think,' out loud together and do all of its Experiments together.
Then the Team helps each person create a few words as a Title or 'Next Culture Job Name' to describe a new Self Image for each person, such as Possibilitator, Edgeworker, Riftwalker, Possibility Coach, Possibility Mediator, Possibility Psychologist, 3 Phase Healer, etc.
Then each person creates or finds a new piece of clothing to wear ongoingly that represents this new Self Image and Title. This thing that you wear is not jewelry. It is your license to practice.
Deliver Your Value So Much and Everywhere Until The Universe Cannot Help But Pay You Back
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Build Your Circle.
Give away your Value into your Circle for no money. This is how you practice with invaluable Real-Time Feedback about what works and what does not work.
When your calendar of appointments with your Clients is longer than your day, then open the chance to exchange value.
Lighten-Up Your Life So E.C.C.O. Can Move You To Your Next Job
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Do Not 'DO' Your Job
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"I’m just doing my job."
Did you ever say that before?
Did you ever think these words to yourself about your life before?
When you 'do' your job, what happens to your life? Does your job go away, to be replaced by tomorrow’s endless list next jobs to do?
"I'm just doing my life..."
But what if you were not?
This Experiment is to replace the Memetic Construct you have built up in your mind around 'doing' - such as in: 'doing my job' or 'doing my life' - with an entirely different Memetic Construct.
For the next 7 days, tell 3 different people each day: "I am just _________________ my job" (or 'my life') with one of these substitutes:
Remember, this is not a complaining session. This is not a victim conversation. There is no cynicism in your voice. This is StartOver time.
After you make your statement, do not destroy the extraordinary Space that it creates. Instead, stay attentively THERE, with whomever you say this to. Take a stroll together in the new territory that just opened up. If you like that Space, figure out some way to 'hammer a stake' into the 'ground' so that you can find your way back there. Create a new Reminding Factor or a new Practice.
This is how to create a powerful exciting moment in what you might usually regard as an ordinary Space. You call in unexpected creation forces that help you go sideways through a Nonlinear possibility Doorway into a new future for yourself and others.
Painting Doorways is a natural set of talents that you can develop. You have the power to ongoingly re-contextualize your job, or your life, or your relationship, or your future, or your church, or...
Nobody can do this for you. Nobody can stop you from doing it.
After this seven days of creating new frameworks for yourself three times each day, please record Matrix Code YOURJOBx.20 at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
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